i kept very calm in order to try to work things back between us then after 5 months I forced myself and moved to her house but I’m living in a room and she’s in another room with the kid, I have tried all the ways to get her back and to be a normal husband and wife but nothing is working at all. Before that she applied "Khula" case in Pakistan and took Khula after six months. thank you for replying me back but we are getting a divorced and thats the best for both of us he hurted me alot of times and i cant bear him even a second and i kno its haram to abort but i have no choice one day this baby would want to meet his or her dad and idk if they would do black magic on my baby because my mothet in law shes like a witch she did magic on me she ruined my life and shes ruining her sons life and my husband he is so immature he doesnt see that right now but he will realise what a perfect wife he lost and he will trult know that my wife is right and my family were always wrong i hope Allah will show him the right path all i want to know is i dont want to keep this nabh i want to abort will there be ant problem? Otherwise, you need to do a new Nikah. NIKAH Literally the act of sexual intercourse, nikah is the term by which marriage is referred to in the Qur'an. The situation we as the family are now faced with is that she is now pregnant by this gentleman who is prepared to accept all his responsibilities. Asalamualaikum, Neither is there any compensation involved, but if what he said is not true then he committed a serious sin. Since then nothing. How did it exactly stop? Please enlighten me in light of Pakistani and Islamic Law as well. We answer their questions in the order received. We had no contact past three years. From the time he has been on drugs he hasnt contacted me from our first eid this year. Converted to Islam from Hinduism, but girlfriend’s parents don’t accept me, My abusive father is creating family unrest and chaos, In my marriage, communication always results in conflict. Yes, we are currently providing virtual nikah services only. Have some compassion for gods sake. I told her give me my kids and get married because she doesn't like any more. Question: As-Salamu `alaykum. Like he was OK doing sex one day and suddenly he stopped any kind of intimacy. Because I have heard that if husband and wife are separated from each other for 4 months the nikah breaks. This post breaks down all the rights that the Shariah and Pakistan Laws provide to women, so that whether you are yet to say Qabool hai or have done … Those who are going to marry or their agents must be present. To view page breaks so that you … I had done nikah on fon with a boy.. but It was not in the proper manner.. hi can you tell me if my husband has left me 4 years ago we have no relation with each other he has said talak to me 3 times at once 2 years ago am I divorced? Is there any difference in validity of nikah between husband and wife doing this illegal relation ? does that marriage stays intact even if the man comes back after 40 years to his first wife? No need to perform nikah. Islamic faith marriage contracts are not valid in English law. Is the nikkah even valid if we didn't sign any papers? Are you ok to go on as you have in the last 4 years? If you want a more detailed answer, please log in and write your question as a separate post. I reverted to Islam 10 years ago (remainder of comment deleted by editor). hi my name is Nafisa and im 3 months pregnant nothing works with me or my husband or his family we tried our best and now I left him im going to move to another city is there anything wrong in this? And I can't afford to pay kids expenses from Pakistan in dollars what's my obligations in that sense. Mufti Could you explian to me all the things that will break a persons nikah. Is wittness necessary in this case that the wife or her parents showed their conscent of not moving to the husbands house? What should I do?please help and guide me Muslim society has been commanded by Allah (SWT) to engage in Nikah and actively support each other in this endeavour: [24:32] Arrange the marriage of the spouseless among you, and the capable from among your bondmen and bondwomen. My husband and I have been separated, the reason is that he never gave me nan nafqa nor any financial support. bt i had no contact. I have been seeing dreams like lizard in mouth, wolf following me and my husbands grand mother doing some magic. Our four years of marriage has gone without any intimacy or feelings and in only 1st month of marriage we've had relationship. Yes, their rationale is that the nikah is broken at that time; however, it was pointed out that Allah said {wa lakum nisfu ma taraka azwajukum} “And you [men] have half of what your spouses leave behind” (al-Nisa’ 4:12) so Allah named her a wife even after her death. 7. Because during my pregnancy we weren't married and he was flirting will my cousin and all. The woman, before the mut’ah, must NOT be in a pending marriage with anyone else. The nikah has 3 main components: a willing couple, witnesses, and a mahr, or gift that the groom gives to the bride. Or do you want to ask for your freedom (as is your right in such cases) and move on into something better than this in shaa Allah? Once divorced, she should observe iddah (waiting period), normally, its 3 months if not pregnant and if pregnant then till she deliver the baby. Will angels curse me if I refuse my husband oral / anal sex? If he continues to disagree, them you have some hard decisions to make. My hubby left home on small fight and has not contacted since last 3 months. The only thing that voids or ends a nikah is divorce. So had this nikah done or not? If the husband comes to know after Nikah that his wife had, at the time of Nikah, any one of the following six deficiencies, he can annul the marriage: Insanity, even if it is intermittent. If it is displayed that the bride or groom is insane. We just give common sense advice. I cant live with him anymore I don't even need another men in my life im only 18 years old im going to be a young mom and all I need is my baby support so I just want to know is that okay if I leave everything behind and start a new life? Now we want to get back together and i wanted to know if we should do another nikkah because we have been separated for long and i have heard that once u leave your husbands house your nikkah breaks. I m separated from my husband from last 6 years now. Nafisa, if your husband is abusive (if he beats you, curses, shouts all the time, etc) then you are certainly justified in leaving him. It sounds like he has checked out of the marriage and does not care for you (I'm sorry to say that). I don't want to take divorce. during our marriage, i worked full time, looked after our children and fulfilled my duties as a wife along with paying all the bills and looking after the finances whilst he contributed to nothing even though he was working fulltime. sofi, I did not see any post submitted by you with this email address. But it is not a sacrament as in other religions. It is not that we cannot live together but we do not want to live together for at least  one year. Guess Who? Don't you think you owe you and your son more than that? What are the benefits of consummation on the first night of marriage? sheraz, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. But my husband didn't touch me for four years except the first month of marriage. 2. if Nikah is intact , he should have to pay some compensation. Well, I asked the ex fiancé to let me know if he sees them 2gether as this is the only means for me to know z truth as I dont have the courage to see them in front of me. - is she still my wife according to Islam and sonny till date? A nikah can only be ended through talaq, khulah or death of course. Does the husband not have a right to provide for his wife should she be living apart. See this post on Zawaj.com where the exact same question was answered by Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi: Does a long separation amount to divorce? The Prayer of Need (Salat al-Hajah) or Istikhara? So basically, If she returned home with her family, Why is that 'gentleman' taking care of her ? i have no idea what is appropriate to wear or what to expect. They will probably be hesitant and will tell you to try to work things out with your husband. Why am I falling out of love for my husband? Till date the husband has not come back even though has stayed in touch, but obviously never had any physical reationship. Does Long Separation Break a Nikah (marriage) in Islam? My 2nd question is about my kids I miss my kids too but I don't wanna go back to Australia again. Again, I apologize. This has been taken from a Sahih Hadith. One way or the other your husband is doing something sinful. He only recently went to rehab. In any case, as long as there was no declaration of talaq (divorce), then you are still married, even after committing zinaa. I think you're worth more than settling for that, sister. If he doesn't want you as a wife, he should be a man and give you a proper divorce and stop keeping you in a painful limbo where your marital rights are denied continuously. I hv 4 children ... my question is that my Nikah is still valid even my wife did not speak with me for the last two years... naveed, separation and lack of communication do not break a nikah. He hasn't even bothered about me and our child. Kindly tell; me what should I do? Marriage is ended only through talaq or khul'ah. Ive heard if iu dont have sex with yr husband for 2 years yr nika is broken is this true or notirene. My sister [29 years old] has been married since May 2010. my husband has physically hurts me on several occasions. Starring: Yoann Blanc, Guillaume Kerbush, Anne Coesens. me and my wife have separation since December 2011, after two weeks she left my home and took another house and of course my daughter with her, all that happened without letting me know anything and any permission from my side at all, I wanted to know is our nikkah still valid. He stopped me from seeing friends and always argued with me about everything and would swear everyday at my family and myself. Does he not have duties as a husband towards her. i didnt understand weather this was allowed in islam n weather a husband had rights to force his wife. Husband has to pay it as it is a debt on him. In English law, their Nikah has not been recognised. First her father threatened me & my family to kill us boz he was higher ranked in police. Asslam o Alaikum. Occasions when husband or wife can nullify Nikah. He should apologize to the person, and ask Allah's forgiveness. What Islam says. What you did is NOT a nikah, and you are NOT married. The girl and my husband told big lies to me & everyone. The Break. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21. Well basically, Marriage in Islam should be done according to Islamic/sharia law and not man made law. Thought this website would support and help me is advice. kindly tell me as i want to marry her. With regards to your question as long as the first nikah was done in the presence of two male witnesses or one male and two female witnesses who heard the words of proposal (Ijab) and acceptance (qabul) clearly, the nikah will be done. InshaaAllah may you resolve matters with your wife. 2. Everyone who writes to us is in a difficult situation. If the man and woman have not been in communication, however, then it is possible (and likely) that the woman has obtained a khulah divorce or nullification in the man's absence. And finally, its best if you and your family increase your Islamic knowledge by learning. Of course it does not affect anyone's nikah. shuma, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you. You're very young and it may be just that you both need to mature a little and learn how to communicate and trust. The main prob is my husband avoids me. It is a form of marriage, which is why it is called a nikah. I don't follow Islam at all. 3 months separation does not automatically mean divorce. We as the family further requested him to issue her with a talaak order so she can continue with her life and his answer remained the same as above. It's bad enough many Muslim men don't want to marry Muslim Sisters. [Editor's note: Please submit your question as a new post for publication rather than as a comment on an existing post. From the rulings of sayed al-khu'i. It would be best for you to speak to an imam and a solicitor regarding Islamic law and Pakistani law. 2021 is at the door! Can yourl help me and tell me whats going on. after a Nikah it allows the couple to spend time together talking, getting to know each other, etc…and if they then find out they’re incompatible, they can break it off and there is less stigma attached to divorce because there was no consummation…and the sister below who warned Muslim girls not to give into pressure from men during this period is 100% correct. I never talked to him loudly or demanded anything except love and intimacy. Islam has not only permitted Nikah but encouraged it and emphasised its importance. Some alim said ur nikah is stuck. Custody of MY son is his right. He only get annoyed that I question him. Sister, three divorces in one sitting are counted as one according to the position of all the scholars of the Ahlus Sunnah. And even then the divorce is not automatic, but the wife has the right to seek divorce. family doesn't allow to go to court for divorce. However I know separating with either make things much worse, more so than better in my view....so I have to be sure. How to break nikkah. بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ Kaleef K. Karim In this article I will be referencing and quoting from numerous scholarly sources that will define the Arabic word ‘Nikah’ as meaning marriage, marriage contract, betrothal. It sounds like good cause for khul'ah to me. He was deported after three months of marriage to Pakistan and I came back to USA. my questions are: TV Mysteries. So please advise me, Salaam could anyone advise me I got to know a guy on the Internet and we talked to eachother for 2 years and then decided we want to have a Nikah so we arranged a nikah in a mosque without his family and mine he was not in the country so he sent a letter to authorise a wali and his friends in uk came as witness and my wali we had the nikah all was fine for 6 months then he went to pakistan and got married again he said he was being forced and I stayed here he got married and took his second wife to quwait with him and had no contact with me it has been a year now I have no idea were he is i have no contact what shall I do I need to move on in life I know I did a mistake by trusted him he used me when ever I said we should meet he said when the time is right he paid no haq meher and no expenses towards me,now my parents want me to get married what should I do 1.is this nikah valid and I can't tell my parents i just want to move on with life which means to have a nikah with whom my parents have choosen of i do will that nikah be valid or invalid,we never ever met each other or had any relationship ever Plz advise me. What should a wife do in this case . After the iddah, she can marry that man she wants to marry. Breakage of nikah . The divorce/marriage rules may contradict Islamic law. Asalamwalikum, I was just wondering if I had my nakah done two years before moving into my husbands house and having no sexual contact would my nakah break? The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. Wedding Party ... involved vary from culture to culture: Some consider it obligatory; other only highly recommend it. Maimoona, there is nothing from Islamic teaching that says if the wife works, she loses custody of her children. Islamic law defines nikah as a civil contract whose main function is to render sexual relations between a man and woman licit.Any sexual relations outside the nikah contract constitute the crime of zina (illicit sexual relations) and are subject to punishment. If one of these conditions doesn’t accrue then the nikah is invalid; 1. 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